I wrote a post about expectations long back. That was a hit :-P People said, I could do a Ph.D. on expectations. So now, here I present, my next beautiful piece.
Inspiration vs Expectation.
These 2 terms sound very separate and you may feel there is no point in comparing these two or rather there is nothing to be versed about both. So here goes the story. Imagine....
There was this highly successful person as per societal standards. Who owns a house, a couple of cars, a happy family, a debt-free life. So at one point in our life, when we just start out or when look for someone to look up to or a ray or hope when low, this person seems like a mega hero to us.
He INSPIRES us to be like him or at least to get what he has materialistically or even more, mentors us to reach where we want to go.
And as the days go on, with the virtue of our hardwork and his INSPIRATION, we reach a point where he is at his life.
Then suddenly, the inspiration changes and turns to become expectation.
You start expecting the person to do more and better things. Whether or not we get another mentor or inspiration, we want this person to do more and better.
So now, my point is not about belittling that person, nor about arrogance that built up on us to look down at a person. He just became less inspiring and a shade of disappointment masks our admiration for him.
Now, there are 2 angles to this. We grew well, and want more and better for him out of love.
Or we out grew him, means he is less than us, makes us feel good or feel worthy.
In scenario one, where the intent is right or good, there is no harm. In the scenario 2, where the intent is wrong, will pull us down the roller equally faster..
But but but...
When we get inspired by a person, we get inspired for his ability to get what HE WANTED IN HIS LIFE..
For his vision for himself and for his goals for himself. He did stuff for himself NOT to impress you.
So having expectations on people who inspired you is kind of a counter pattern...
This is a trait I observed a lot among people around me. Hence this post. Keep a watch on yourself, whether or not you agree to my view..
